Why is there so much talk on relationships? I ve always wondered.. Now everyday in the newspapers, magazines, radio and tv (in short.. the media), there are articles written on relationships. How to mend broken relationships, how to get over a break up, how to carry on life after a divorce... and range of such topics... The catch here is.. who writes / talks on these topics? If you think, it s a marriage counsellor or a psychiatrist, stop.. think again. There are these VJs and RJs and a hoard of other people who have started to talk / write on relationships. There is Dr. Love on Radio Mirchi and a whole big platoon of other skimpily dressed VJs on Zoom / SS Music and what not.. who offer "free advice" on relationships. Funnily enough, there are people, calling and asking these people.. "My boy friend is going around with another girl.. what should I do" (or the vice versa).
Dont you think that s dumb? If you arent mature enough to make your own decisions, then why ever even have a boy friend? If your boy friend is going around with another girl, then either you arent smart enough, or he isnt worth you. Why ever even bother? If he s your boy friend and this is your relationship, then YOU should make the decision and not someone else who doesnt even know you.
Every relationship is different (obviously because every person is different), every problem is different and there can never ever be a generic solution.
There can be a thousand reasons for infidelity, but life doesnt stop with one person. If there is a break up, there are chances that they may get together. Friends and relatives can offer support, but it is upto the couple to decide their lives.
To attempt suicide is probably the most stupid thing that someone can ever do. It is said that it requires a lot of courage to commit suicide, but I think a coward is the one to do that, because to be alive and prove yourself, it requires even more courage. So, if there is a break up, suicide is not the solution. Life doesnt begin and end with one person. (For all those reading this.. I am not a counsellor.. I am not offering free advice..These are just my thoughts after being in the lives of a few of my friends who have gone through some emotional trauma) Yes it will be disheartening, it will be hurting.. but at the end of it all, we need to emerge brave and strong.
A few of my friends have been amazing through their struggle and I am proud of them. I have never known them to have asked a 3rd person (pls read: media queries) for assistance. They have fought it out on their own, friends have supported them.
The bottom line is.. Cry your heart out, pound that pillow but never ask anyone for advice. Sort out the mess on your own, because it is your life. :-)
